Emotional Healing Through Integration - Part Two

by Laurel Elders, MCC, CEC

What happens when we locate our personal power? Have you experienced the healthiest version of your emotional and spiritual well-being?
 
In Part One, we looked at healing as a result of integrating. One aspect of integration is locating our personal power. In Part Two, we explore the type of personal power that results from discovering the true self and shedding the false.
 
The concept of integration comes with a few complexities. The process is not linear and often counterintuitive, yet the results are observable.
 
What does it mean to integrate?
 
First, integration results in reaching new potentials that become possible when we tap into the cohesive state of wholeness within us. We integrate by accepting all parts of self and consciously leading our life through our gifts, core values, and authentic self. I say consciously because it takes intention. What we focus on grows. Focus on nothing, and anything can show up.
 
How do we embrace all parts of the self when there are parts we are not friends with or do not serve us? How do we embrace the "good" and "bad," the true and the false?
 
Let's explore the theory to understand how these aspects of self came to be. The theory is that our first wounding generated the egoic self. The ego is the part of the mind that decides it is unsafe in this world. The egoic self sees itself as separate from others and, therefore, makes up strategies to keep us emotionally and physically safe.
 
This process is not good, bad, right or wrong. It is just one aspect of the human experience. While the ego's attempts to keep us safe may work and benefit us when needed, the illusions generated fragment us from our true self and the depth of our intuition. Fear blocks intuition. So the idea is to shed the defense mechanism once we no longer need it. When our true power shows up, we release the grips of the ego.
 
We can begin a sifting process once we embrace all aspects of self. We can peel the egoic layers of our inner onion back to find no substance at the core of the ego. Our substance is the very essence of who we are. You are not your fears, defense mechanisms, or limiting beliefs. You are your gifts, strengths, values, and virtues. You are also so much more. You are also potential.

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